Tips : Creating Sexual Chemistry

• Better Man in brief ...
• In order to spark sexual chemistry, you don't need to brag.
• Make sure you listen and respond to what she has to say.
• Be a gentleman -- women still love men who are polite and open doors.

While it’s common knowledge that women tend to gravitate toward money and power, many eligible bachelors don’t boast either. But the true Player recognizes that the key to fireworks lies in sexual chemistry, that powerful and deciding factor surrounded by an aura of mystery. As a responsible member of the Player community, it’s your job to cultivate those subtle sparks and fan them to a roaring flame in record time.

But not every curvaceous target will sense these sparks, so you might have to get a little creative. Your past conquests probably give you security and confidence, but even the best can’t guarantee chemistry every time. Let’s say you want to score with that smokin’ bartender who always tops off your drink for free, but she isn’t responding with the requisite level of interest. It’s time to roll up your sleeves and create sexual tension, even if chemistry isn’t immediately evident.

Sexual chemistry defined

Let’s initially adopt the scientific definition of sexual chemistry, which is “a natural, mutual romantic attraction between two people that results from a mixture of physical attraction and natural, mutual personality-based rapport.” Of course, that’s kind of wordy, so we'll break it down to something more accessible: You need to adapt to her personality and make a few moves that point toward physical attraction -- even if she’s not “feeling it.”

You probably want to close the deal quickly, so let's focus on doing so in a single night. The following are some hints and tips to make that bartender switch gears from neutral to overdrive.

Establishing common ground

Having something in common is essential to any level of sexual chemistry. If you click on emotional or intellectual grounds, that is a welcoming start -- you'll have something to discuss. Work on having multiple levels of commonality. The more common ground, the more you’ll connect with her and stay in her thoughts. Finding the common ground will require you to listen and pay attention to her in conversation. Establish areas where you both agree without becoming a “yes man.” Agreeing with her and even speaking out on some of the points on which you differ will intrigue her. Constant agreeing will make her think you're boring. Being headstrong will wake up the chemistry.

Show her that you understand women

Trying to show her that you feel and think as a woman feels and thinks is a waste of time. She knows you have no footing in the world of women. But show her that you understand what women want with good manners -- opening doors, being your best and excelling at communicating and listening. Showing a woman you have style and showing her you know how to be a fool will remind her that she is with a man, and her smoldering interest (and yours) will grow.

Show her that you understand her

She’s been talking, and you have been listening -- or at least you should have been. She has been supplying information about herself during your conversation. Ask questions about her responses. Agree with her points (only when you do, resist faking your opinion). In allowing the conversation to be about her, you tell her that you understand her. While proving that you understand women is going to appeal to her, displaying that you "get" her will set her afire. She will wonder about who you are, what you’re about and why you understand her when so many others do not.

Be mysterious

If she knows too much about you, setting up sexual chemistry will be difficult. The draw of desire is wanting what we have not had before. If you are an open book, she’ll find little interest in you.  But you shouldn't be unnecessarily stoic or use one-word sentences. Guard against being gabby and commenting on every thing and every person nearby. Talk little and listen a lot. By the date’s end, she will realize how little she knows about you, and then the chemistry begins. Be coy in your approach. Men find an easy lay appealing. Women find it obvious and a turn-off. Being overly eager will show through and will let her know that you’re lonely and impatient to satisfy yourself with her. Elevator eyes, obvious staring and body stance can all scream anything but coy. Watch these signals and make sure to keep the conversation away from anything sexual. She will throw out the bait to see if you’re like the other men in the room, and when you don't take the lure, her interest will rise.

Be positive

Few things kill sexual chemistry, desire and attraction like negativity. Being angry at the bartender or complaining about something that happened earlier will sap the excitement and potential energy she could build for you. This growing energy is sexual chemistry, and as it peaks, it piques her interest in you. Politeness mixed with a bit of mystery will put her in the position of wondering who you are. But if she must endure your bad attitude, it will quickly turn her off, and you’ll be alone with your sexual chemistry.