There’s a mysterious je ne sais quoi that certain people possess. It’s a hidden attribute that isn’t quantifiable in a traditional sense, but people gauge and talk about it constantly anyway — sex appeal. It makes the world go round. Advertisers spend millions of dollars centering ad campaigns around it, stylists try to capture it aesthetically. And a lot of people lament the fact that they have no sex appeal.
But that’s changeable. Entirely. And more people are realizing it. Here are some tips to help you bring your sexy back.
Realize That It’s Not A Fixed Attribute
A lot of people sit in their basements, firing off angry screeds in their diaries about how nobody finds them sexy. You can learn sexy. But there’s no dojo that’ll coach you in the ways of the sexy leg sweep and it might take months or years of retraining yourself and breaking down walls of social programming to get there — but even the people who view themselves as the most hopeless cases need to realize you’re never hopeless; provided you’re willing to learn and change.
Dedicating more of your time to self-improvement, physically and mentally, is the only way to improve. And thankfully this isn’t an area that your entire life needs to be dedicated towards, like your job. Often times even the smallest effort, such as getting a new dress sense, can make the biggest changes.
Start Taking Better Care of Yourself
Where a lot of people advocate the old maxim that it doesn’t matter what you look like, you can still be sexy – it doesn’t hurt. Joining a gym and gaining 15 pounds of lean muscle won’t ever hurt your chances of being thought of as a sex object by the opposite sex. There are no posters being sold of sedentary men with donuts, unless it’s Homer Simpson, but there are ones sold of athletes and attractive public figures. In addition, monitoring what you eat and exercising will have a positive impact on increasing your longevity in other areas, such as your abilities in the sack. There’s no downside to taking care of yourself – other than the fact that it may change your routine slightly. We could all use a little change.
Be Unpredictable
Teasing, breaking rapport, making jokes and the like signifies one important aspect of self – that you have a solid foundation of comfort that you’ve built off of and you don’t really need or want other people’s approval. In addition, in certain social situations, breaking rapport will introduce an element of attraction that wasn’t there prior – because you’re now actively piquing their interest and becoming a challenge. Be confident and socially intelligent to come off as unpredictable, but not destructive. Women and people in general like the element of perceived danger that comes with being unpredictable — they don’t necessarily like destructive behavior.
Have More Women In Your Life
Here’s a shocker — a lot of people who are described as sexy actually aren’t. They run in social circles and maintain lifestyles that are sexy. You wonder why billionaires are able to hang out with Victoria’s Secret models? Chances are they already know a few based off their social status. Corporations, record companies and Hollywood know about preselection – if you have some women chase you, you’re going to have other women chasing you. So have women in your life. Go out with friends who are girls and they will introduce you to more women… Who will realize you know other women. It’s a win-win cycle.
Get More Informed About Sex
If you’re a person who’s not having a lot of sex, it may be difficult to learn more about it. It’s an elusive subject. But one thing you can do is read about different sexual techniques, erogenous zones in the human body and what people generally like. People who are knowledgeable in a subject feel comfortable when they’re in a situation relating to that subject. You don’t need to be an expert in the tantric sex – but familiarize yourself with the basics. So when you do get a girl alone, you won’t put a paper bag over your head and start hyperventilating. You’ll be prepared.
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